Some unedited thoughts on femmeness.
I haven’t been on tumblr a lot lately but today while scanning a bunch of posts I realized quickly how much I don’t care about white femmes. I mean I’m sure folks are lovely but I only have time to cultivate femmes of color community in my life. Part of this is frustration in what happened in the femmes united group here in Portland (folks being really divisive and defensive around racial justice accountability) and partly in that I just don’t think my femme identity can be separate from my poc identity politics. While this is probably obvious to lots of femmes of color, it just became concrete to me that like my feminism versus womanism, I just don’t think white femmes and femmes of color share enough for me to think of them as the same thing. At the end of the day, I guess I’m realizing that femmes of color have their community, culture, and identity that femme identity alone just doesn’t have and I’m really ok with separating those two things and not seeking out anything but femmes of color community.